I was never taught that anything about prioritizing myself only that “selflessness is a virtue”. “Be there for others, take care of others and extend a helping hand” was the message I adopted. Which is true but to what extend? They never said. No one taught or explained where caring for others should end and […]
PRIORITIZING YOURSELF IS NOT SELFISH: You deserve to be cared for too Read More »
I have heard someone ask, “why should I apologize when the hurt person should be held responsible for their own feelings. It is not my responsibility to nurse their feelings” I thought long and hard to come up with an answer that wasn’t simply “Because it is the right thing to do”. APOLOGIZING Before we
LEARN TO APOLOGIZE: The forgotten art of saying “I am sorry” Read More »
I learned that a big part of taking responsibility was being held accountable for your choices. Which was one of the hardest things for me to do. For a very long time I couldn’t stand by my own choice solidly and it showed. ACCOUNTABILITY: Where responsibility exists, accountability reside. Yet accountability is harder than responsibility
BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR CHOICES: Every choice you make has consequences Read More »
For the longest time, I was convinced that life was happening to me. It felt unfair. I was partially right of course; I do not have control over everything but that did not take away from the fact that my life is my own responsibility. And when I stepped into my self-awareness, I could no
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR LIFE: You are the only one in control of your choices Read More »
The biggest misconception I had was that when I find my real circle I will finally have the people that will understand me fully. I was so wrong and you can imagine my shock when I found out just how wrong I was. I did not like being misunderstood, that’s where 30% of my frustration
BE OKAY BEING MISUNDERSTOOD: Your authenticity demands support not understanding Read More »
For 5 years after matric, I have been trying to get myself to be perceived in an eye that is right for society. Agreeable, palatable and finally acceptable. All because I internalized someone, no, some people’s opinions about me. I watered down my personality with fears that were never my own to begin with. And
OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF BEING PERCEIVED: To be seen is to be loved Read More »
I use to dislike this one specific girl in university and I had no idea why I disliked her. She never did anything to me; I just thought she was annoying and too much of a know-it-all. Only when I did some self-reflection did I realize that she was the embodiment of every single thing
THE POWER OF PROJECTION: The mirror effect of life Read More »
Since I got into adulthood I have always felt like I was racing against time. Trying my best not to get left behind and keep up with my peers. I have always wondered why I felt this way like time was counting down. What I never realized was that there is a clock ticking in
IGNORE THE INVISIBLE UNIVERSAL TIMELINE: Feeling Behind or ahead Is an Illusion Read More »
One of the most dangerous thing our conditioning teaches us is that our worth must be earned or proven. If you are like me, you believed it. My identity and worth were tied to all the external acceptable experiences I was able to accomplish. There was a constant need to proof myself and eventually earn
BEWARE OF THE SELF-WORTH TRAP: Your worth is only within you Read More »
One of the best ways that helped me in shaping my self-concept better was the creation of an alter ego. Through her, I was able to observe myself with clarity and compassion, allowing me to strengthen my new self-perception. She became a bridge between who I am currently and who I am growing into, giving
IT MATTERS TO FORM AN ALTER EGO: Building a strong perception of yourself Read More »
