The biggest misconception I had was that when I find my real circle I will finally have people that understand me, fully. I was so wrong and you can imagine my shock when I found out just how wrong I was. I did not like being misunderstood, that’s where 30% of my frustration issues came […]
BE OKAY BEING MISUNDERSTOOD: Your authenticity demands support not understanding Read More »
For 5 years after matric, I have been trying to get myself to be perceived in an eye that is right for society. Agreeable, palatable and finally acceptable. All because I internalized someone, no, some people’s opinions about me. I watered down my personality with fears that were never my own to begin with. And
OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF BEING PERCEIVED: To be seen is to be loved Read More »
I use to dislike this one specific girl in university and I had no idea why I disliked her. She never did anything to me; I just thought she was annoying and too much of a know-it-all. Only when I did some self-reflection did I realize that she was the embodiment of every single thing
THE POWER OF PROJECTION: The mirror effect of life Read More »
Since I got into adulthood I have always felt like I was racing against time. Trying my best not to get left behind and keep up with my peers. I have always wondered why I felt this way like this. What I never realised was that there is a clock ticking in the background of
IGNORE THE INVISIBLE UNIVERSAL TIMELINE: Feeling Behind or ahead Is an Illusion Read More »
One of the most dangerous thing our conditioning teaches us is that our worth must be earned or proven. If you are like me, you believed it. My identity and worth were tied to all the external acceptable experiences I was able to accomplish. There was a constant need to proof myself and eventually earn
BEWARE OF THE SELF-WORTH TRAP: Your worth is only within you Read More »
One of the best ways that helped me in shaping my self-concept better was the creation of an alter ego. Through her, I was able to observe myself with clarity and compassion, allowing me to strengthen my new self-perception. She became a bridge between who I am currently and who I am growing into, giving
WHY IT MATTERS TO FORM AN ALTER EGO: Building a strong perception of yourself Read More »
One of the many things I understood months later in my journey that would have been better to know earlier on is self-compassion. In the beginning, I was my own biggest critic believing that growth required constant dictatorial self-correction and strict rigid metrics. I measured how quickly I was healing and how much I struggled
VALUE PRACTICING SELF-COMPASSION: To become someone you genuinely love Read More »
You are the last person standing in your own way. Another thing I ran into on my self-awareness journey was my own self-image attached to my ego vigorously preserving my fragile sense of self. Whenever an opportunity of growth invited me, my ego rushed to the defense. I began to see how this attachment kept
CHALLENGING YOUR SELF-IMAGE: Third step to finding yourself in your 20s Read More »
I never realized how often I was actually surviving instead of being real until I underwent the first step in my self-awareness journey. I could not live from my truth simply because underneath my conditioning lived my survival personas. It was hard to override because I kept clinging to my survival instincts unconsciously. Only with
FINDING YOUR SURVIVAL PERSONA: Second step to finding yourself in your 20s Read More »
For many years, I searched for my truth and authenticity without fully understanding why I somehow never really got anywhere and felt more disconnected from myself. It took time to realize that I was busy addressing symptoms rather than the source. I was trying to reshape my life on the surface while leaving the deeper
UNDERSTANDING YOUR CONDITIONED SELF: First step to finding yourself in your 20s Read More »